Tuesday, November 8, 2011

This Time Together

I've come to enjoy Audio Books.  Especially ones that are read by someone interesting,
(Ms Burnett IS interesting!) and are not abridged. In other words you get the whole book or story with out it being edited down.


Ms. Burnett can best explain the nature of the book This Time Together, and why she chose to write it.

For those of us who grew up watching The Carol Burnett Show ... it is like visiting an old friend and having a long and enjoyable conversation. In this conversation however, Carol is doing all the talking. Being such a wonderful talent, she easily makes it work.

The stories from both her personal and professional life are funny, sad, joyous, touching, a bit mystical at times. Yet, a thoroughly enjoyable experience. I learned about aspects of Carol's life that I had [of course] no clue.

I would like to reach out to her and thank her for her time, talent, and her willingness to be so open about her life.  

Hmm I wonder if I look her up in a telephone directory ... or ... Google her ... if I could find a phone number or email and contact her.  

I'll let you know!

Break-a-leg Carol.  You are loved!

Gary

Saturday, November 5, 2011

This post is a "short break" between the adoption story ... 

A thought to consider.
“Liberalism requires you to lie about what you see, pretend what isn’t there.. is, and pretend what is there... isn’t.  
Once the lib spell is broken, you can never go back.  
Once you “know,” you can never unknown.  
The truth is, life is conservative.  The truth is, there is truth.  
And when you pursue truth and welcome it, you also know what a lie liberalism is, through and through.” - Rush Limbaugh

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Prying open the distant past ...



I am adopted.  As far back as I can recall, I have always known I was adopted. According to my (adoptive) parents I was “chosen.”  From here on out, the term parents will refer to those two “long suffering” people who adopted me.  My biological birth parents will be referred to as my biologicals ... for the sake of identification.
Some of my earliest memories is of me and dad in a big (everything is big when you're that small) waiting room, with books and toys. Dad had me standing on his upper thighs, while we held hands.  With my legs as stiff as I could hold them, he would lever me up and down, and also encourage me to pull with my arms and push with my legs.  Dad was helping me build my body's muscles and encouraging me to move.


Taken in about 1957 or
1958, the same time
we adopted "Miss Boots!"
San Diego CA
When I was five or six, I was taken to the local animal shelter where my parents and me picked out a dog.  I assume the dog was for me.  The little thing was a black and white terrier mix. She was mostly black, with white feet, a little white on her chest, a white spot on her face and the tip of her tail was also white. She was named Boots. Or Miss Boots as mother would refer to her from time to time.
My parents also used this occasion to help illustrate the concept of adoption to me. It worked. I understood the basic concept of being “chosen” and getting to go live with two people (three in Boot’s case) who loved me and the dog very much.
So, it has never been a surprise to me that I was adopted.  Somewhere in the house is a little gray two part book about adoption. It was also shown and read to me early on. Funny how those memories surface, now that I am recording this.  Also, somewhere in the house is a collection of growing up pictures, complete with notable events, report cards, class photographs and the like. Will have to dig that up at some point.
What brought all this about if I’ve known all along that I was adopted?  Well, its the circumstances surrounding why I was placed up for adoption that have recently come to light.
With the passing of mother and father, mom in 1995 and dad in 2000, I was very slow to process that part of the will/trust that released the house. As time has passed ... and as the last processing of the trust has recently occurred, I’ve come to realize, “as long as I did nothing, it continued to remain mom and dad’s house. I could then believe they weren’t quite gone ...” We’ve kept the property tax paid, and fixed up things that need fixing ... although that is probably another entry in and of itself ... 
In the lawyer’s office, when processing the paper that ultimately moved the property into MY name, I cried.  Now my parents are indeed gone.  Their house is now my house.  Yes, I know the reality of their passing, the timing and the events surrounding each one’s passing ... but now, on another level they REALLY are gone.

In September 2011 I had the pleasure of renewing family-ship with Cousin Willma and her wonderful husband Sandy and their grown children Jennifer and Kyle.  See my other blog entries for that adventure. 

Among the many conversations we had was the gentle revealing of my mother’s previous marriage.  This information was kept from Marjorie’s (my mother’s name) son for a good many years. Only coming to my attention recently. In the family papers, it turns out I have a copy of that divorce decree. The family papers also revealed that dad had been previously married as well.
We also discussed what we collectively new about my adoption.
Life-us intruptus has occurred!  I’ll be back ...

Friday, September 16, 2011

Still More San Diego ...



On Thursday September 1st the Heckmans's and the Lauterback's attended "Family Day" at MCRD in San Diego.  In the after noon I got to meet cousin Kyle Heckman!  An almost newly minted US Marine.  Below are some of the photos taken that day.
The start of the day's adventure.  We learned lots
of recruit training daily vocabulary and rules of
behavior.  The DI must have been hard of hearing
as he kept telling us to speak louder.  Hmmmmm

Kat my wife, enjoying the day's adventure!

Sandy Heckman, Kyle's father.
Pictured here: Jennifer, Josh and Willma.
Josh is Kyle's best friend of many years!
This short vid shows a small part of the motivational run the recruits make around the assembled family and friends.


Spotted first by Willma's long lens.  Standing at ease.
Oh, looking R to L, Kyle is the third one in line.
The Hickman's reunited.  What a wonderful sight!
Son and mother.  A happy woman!
Kyle and Jennifer

The thing about "Family Day" is that the day before graduation, the family and friends of the recruit meet and spend the day together.  The recruit cannot leave the depot and must be back in his quarters by 1800 hours and not a second later.  Kyle according to his parents departed for his quarters a little after 1700 hours.  Not EVEN taking a chance of not returning on time.  The penalty for being late? The recruit will have to wait for the next scheduled graduation ceremony to graduate.  Quite a motivator if you ask me.


The afternoon activities began with the "Liberty Lunch Buffet."  Evidently right after these photos were taken Kyle ushered everyone to the "Chow Hall."  Due to other concerns Kat and I were        unable to attend the buffet. 

Stay tuned.  Tomorrow?  Graduation Day!

More of our San Diego Vacation


I'm thinking that some photos of our visit will speak louder than any words I might have to add.  Enjoy!


Little guy on the move

King of Beasts

Condors


Hippopotamus ... thats imposarus (well not really).


These are just a few (as you can tell) of the many photos we all took.  May I invite you to plan your own visit?  It is truly an outstanding zoo!

Lunch Time • It's TGI Fridays!

Mother & Daughter hamming it up for the camera!


Next stop?  A San Diego Mission!


This is (get ready for a fairly long name) Mission Basilica San Diego de Alcala´ It was established on July 16, 1769 in Mission Valley, just northeast of the the city.  I found it a lovely peaceful place to visit.


Facing the alter.


Inside the garden area, looking to the front of the Mission's Bell Tower.


A statue of Franciscan priest, Father Junipero Serra, founder of the California Missions.

Just as a side note the Garmin iPhone app pronounced "Junipero" as "uneepero."  Sometimes the Garmin's pronounciation takes a bit of getting used to.

Stay tuned ... coming up ... the OTHER reason the Heckman's and Lauterback's are in San Diego!















Monday, August 29, 2011

Tripping to ... San Diego ...



Upon getting on the road, we hit Route 166 East.  Kat suggested we take that route to reach our ultimate goal of arriving in San Diego.  We both knew that there was road construction south of Santa Maria and possibly in Santa Barbara.  Between the two probable road construction projects, I agreed with Kat that going east would be a good move.
We reached I-5's interchange about 90 minutes into the trip.  Turning south, we began the middle leg of the journey.
Several days earlier I downloaded the Garmin App into both our iPhones.  I reasoned that which ever one of us was driving, the other could use the iPhone's Garmin app to assist in route control.  Both of us keying in the address of the Hampton Inn, and activated the Garmin as we departed. Good reasoning on our part.  Unfortunately the Garmin App did not always reason out the route the way humans do.  
The Garmin routed us south on US 101.  For the next 20 miles or so, it kept telling us to take such and such a road and make a U-Turn.  I figured it thought "You've activated me, and you're not listening to me ..." it eventually fell silent, except for the occasional announcement that it was "recalculating." This usually fell either slightly before or after two little bongs.  These sounded like what an elevator would make when it approached a floor it was to stop at.  As we got with-in about 10 miles or so of the 
I-5 interchange, it began announcing that we ought turn right (south) onto I-5 giving us time and range as we closed the distance.  I actually think it was relieved when we followed it's direction.  
The Garmin App preformed extremely well, now that we were following it's directions.  Mind you, we are traveling in our Saturn VUE, with the iPone plugged into the car stereo via appropriate wiring and using the AUX port on the face of the stereo.  So, we had a nice full-rich sounding female voice.
I think it was in Orange County when the App directed us to the left lane in order to access (destination) Sant-e Ah-na.  We darn near recked while trying to figure out where Sant-e Ah-na was.  Two or three large highway signs that spelled out Santa Ana later we suddenly realized that it was the unit's pronunciation that was at fault, not it's direction(s).  We laughed for ... what ... 5 miles, over this.
It was then that we also realized that we were in serious need of lunch.  So, the next order of business was to get off the freeway and get gas and food.  Pretty much in that order.  Garmin wasn't too thrilled by us leaving the freeway. It immediately recalculated it's route and directed us accordingly.  One gas station, 5 turns and 20 some odd miles later we landed for lunch in San Juan Capistrano, at the Ventage Steak House. AND we almost missed that place too.  We stumbled upon it, began our approach to the restaurant.  It looked like it was  housed inside a rail road car. Then right next to it, was another rail road car that appeared to be an access point to the local Amtrak line.  I almost drove off thinking we were in error, when we spotted the side of the car's actual entrance.  We found parking, and made our way to the entrance, climbed several stops up into the car, and with in a few minutes, were seated.  Kat had essentially a steak salad.  I had a sirloin lunch steak with mashed potatoes and veggies.  The ice tea was superb, and the food was out of this world good!  The flavor and taste would have you think this was a 5 Star restaurant.  After spending an hour in this food haven ... we resumed our journey to San Diego. 
Next: the final leg ...
It turns out that we are now about 90 minutes drive time, away from our hotel reservation in SD.  "Depends on traffic" stated our server.
During that time we texted by Cousin Willma that they had landed at the airport and were waiting for the shuttle to go to the hotel, and as we learned later to go onto the car rental facility,  Kat used my phone to answer the text,  At  that time we were about 25 miles out.  Would you believe we made it to the Hampton Inn BEFORE my cousin?  
The strangest thing ...
Garmin delivered us to our destination.  Kat and I found a parking spot, and exited the Saturn.  We made our way to the lobby, checked in and was assigned our room.  I went to consult my iPhone and found it DEAD!  What?  I looked at it again.  The screen was dark, and wouldn't respond to repeated presses of the home button.  Having brought ourselves and our luggage to our room, I began serious attempts at bring my phone back to life, you know, pressing power and home button ... then doing it together for the prescribed amount of time!  Alas, to no avail.
What surprised me was my reaction to the devices failure.  I became extremely agitated, not angry just to make it clear, but agitated. I held the power button down ... no response.  I attached it to it's AC adapter, again no response. 
I had this overpowering need to get this fixed RIGHT NOW.  Poor Kat, she calmed me down, as she accessed her iPhone for the nearest Apple Store.  At the moment she did this I did not know that Apple in fact had a corporate store here in San Diego.  As the next few minutes turned into a half then 3/4's of an hour, we located, drove to and found the Apple Store.  Kat guarded the car as I made my way into the out-door mall .. and to the store that would be my iPhone's site of repair.
Having gotten used to the Apple Store in San Luis Obispo, no slouch of a store in it's own right ... but I'm telling you ... this store was down right crowded.  Check out these two pictures.
Facing the  Genius Bar.
Looking toward entrance.

Okay maybe the photo's don't quite show how very crowed it actually was.  Iapproached the Genius Bar and was intercepted by one of the fellows in blue.  I explained what has happened, namely one moment it was working as it should, the next it was dead.  Blue boy nodded his head, and all during my explanation, was holding down the ... power button.  After about 20 seconds or so, the White Apple appeared on the screen.  Another 15 seconds or so, the home screen came up.  Blue boy then checked which version of OS it was in and pronounced it well.  Good for him.  Good for my iPhone ... but being a MacGuy ... I kept thinking ... I should have done that!  
In the mean time, Cousin Willma had left me a voice message ... I phone her back, and explained what happened to the phone, but all was well ... and we made our plans to meet later in the evening at the Hampton and then on to dinner.
About two hours later, the family reunion began in earnest, iPhone in pocket working like a champ.   Hugs and introductions were given and received. Off we went to The Brigantine Restaurant for a SUPERB meal.  The Clam Chowder was the BEST I've ever eaten, hands down. Both Kat and I had prime rib, while my cousins enjoyed a fish meal.  We completed out meal, and retired back to our hotel rooms, where we spent another few hours talking over old times, family members and plans for the next day.
Tuesday morning after breakfast we found ourselves hanging out with ... of all people ... Bob Hope!  Or rather his statue.  There is a memorial park to the Midway's port side.  Lots of nice green grass and some World War II memorials.  Accounts of our Navy's Pacific Theatre Campaigns, and a tribute to those who gave their last full measure of devotion in service to our country.

The top photo is Cousin Willma, Bob and me.  To the right, is Sandy, Willma's husband is also standing with Bob.
One of the comments Willma and Sandy kept making is how much their daughter, Jenny would LOVE to see this little park.  And the famous "Kissing Scene" ... as noted at the end of WWII, depicting that photo that appeared in the newspapers of the day.  Here at left, the art work is viewed from the port side of the USS Midway.  This statue is what Willma and Sandy want to surprise Jenny with. 

We also enjoyed touring the USS Midway.  I can tell you thats one BIG ship!
We spent about 4 to 4 1/2 hours aboard ship and could not see it all.  We rented a wheel chair for Kat to make getting about for her less painful.  She had a great time, and found it most festinating.  The Corsair pictured here, is "Kat's favorite plane or design!"  

One of my favorite mini-tours was the walk through Admiral's & Captain's Country.  The deck that denoted those spaces, is painted blue.  Their quarters were spacious compared to (even) the officer's and then enlisted spaces.  WAY cool.


This photo was taken by the "Photo Intel Center" aboard ship.  We had choices to buy "prints" which of course we did buy one, or we could get our pictures on a USB Thumb Drive.  We did that too.
To say we had a wonderful half a day is to really understate it.  One day, we plan to return for another tour.  That will be another blog.
Tuesday Evening • Really late at night ... She arrives ... 
I think her smile says it all!
Wednesday Morning Kat and I got to finally meet ... in person ...  Jennifer Heckman!  Okay we've communicated for quite a while on FB and occasionally, over the years via snail mail.  I've know of all my cousins for YEARS thanks to my mother's story tellings and more frequent phone contact and so on.  Now, with this mini-reunion we got to meet Jenny in person.  Wait.  I said that already!  We all got together Wednesday morning in the lobby of the Hampton.  What a joy it was to see her for the first time in person.  Kat and I took to her like a duck to a southern june bug.  Living in Memphis, her "accent" was a bit more pronounced then Willma's but not by much.  All these "Southerners" were, for me a breath of fresh air.    With the USS Midway in the background, this photo was destined to be taken.  So glad you were surprised!  From here we motored to the San Diego Zoo!













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Sunday, August 28, 2011

Getting ready to go ...

Have you ever realized how much there is to do when you get ready for a trip.  Ours is a "Road Trip."  We're driving.  We've got the car ready mechanically, we've got it oiled and gassed.  Heck I even gave it a bath too!

So now it's time to load the car.  Yup, it's the day before ... we're loading part of our stuff in the car today, so tomorrow morning it's just the last minute stuff to load.   I decided to write this up on the blog.  Isn't that way blogs are for?  The moment I begin keying this in, up pops one of our kitties, BerBer.  No no-ber ... dad-ber, hold and pet me-ber.  She KNOWS we're getting ready to leave. Thus, wants all our attention NOW.  I asked her why now?  BerBer let me know she was trying to stock up on kitty hugs and affection to "draw on" while we are gone.  Go figure.  She is happy about one thing though, we are boarding Elvis.  She won't have to doggy sit while we're away.

Oh, least I forget?  BerBer speak has nearly everything she says ending in ber ...  Now re-read the last few sentences and it'll make more sense ... I  hope.

Kat's trying on new jewelry she got last week, Elvis is watching her like a hawk, and I'm off to get more things packed into the car ...

Okay after a bunch of running around ... I'm back.  Turns out I needed to pack up more stuff before I could put anything else into the car.  One of the things on my to do list is to fill the cat's two feeder bowls.  I reached for the two new bags of IAMS kibble.  On the outside of one of the bags it says "New Improved Taste - Your cat will LOVE it!"  How do they know the taste is improved?  Who's cat sampled the new kibble and agreed with their conclusion?  I tried to feed some to Kat, but she turned me down flat!  She wouldn't have any part of it.  So that's one Kat who disagreed with that claim.   Hmmmm ....

Back to packing ...

Packing is now complete.  Loading it all into the car comes in the morning ... and that will be here before I know it.

See ya!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Learning ...

Just a bit at a time.  I have successfully altered the stock background for one of my current favorite computer screen backgrounds.  It took me nearly an hour to resize the image to meet the requirements for posting.  Get it too small and it checkerboards on the screen.  To BIG and of course it won't complete the upload process. Electronic hit or miss ...

Later this next week I get to meet Cousin Jennifer.  We have face booked one another. I've viewed her photo collections, met Kyle her brother in the same way.  This next week however I'll get to meet them both in person.  Along with Willma and her husband Sandy.  I haven't seen Willma sense we were small kids in Tennessee.  Kyle is a freshly minted Marine!  He's graduating this next week from boot camp.  What a great excuse for a mini family reunion.

Did I tell you I am from Tennessee?  I don't sound much like it though.  I have been in California for too many years.  Maybe when I come back from visiting my cousins, some of their "accents" will rub off on me.  Not the worst thing that can happen I assure you.

Time to switch jobs here and fill out the rest of this stuff.  - I'll be back!   (C:

Well here we go ... my first blog.

I have to admit the idea for this blog came from two people, my wife Kat and my cousin Jennifer.

Kat's wants to create and write a blog on a subject or two dear to her heart.  Jennifer has two blogs of her own and monitors many more.

So here I am.  Boldly blogging where I have NEVER blogged before.

Okay here it is ... the beginning, and for the moment, the end.